“But I like him this way,” “At least it’s not the hard stuff.”  Whether it is drinking or some other usage, it’s still inebriation, it’s still checking out, and it’s still not good enough for you.  

It doesn’t count unless he says it when he’s sober.  An “I Love You” while under the influence of anything stronger than grape juice won’t hold up in court or in life.

Drinking and drug use are not a path to one’s innermost feelings.  Otherwise people wouldn’t smash empty beer cans against their skulls or stick their fingers in fire to see if they can feel anything.

If he only wants to see you, talk to you, have sex with you, etc. when he’s inebriated, it ain’t love- it’s sport.

Bad boys are actually bad.

You deserve to be with someone who doesn’t have to get loaded to be around you.

Don’t waste the pretty~dani

“He’s got no excuse and he knows it,” “But I’ve gotten fat,” “He has a stronger sex drive than I,” “But at least he knew her.”  Greg says that cheaters are people who have a lot of stuff to work out and they’re working it out on your time and with your heart.  100% of guys polled said that they have never accidentally slept with anyone.  

There is no excuse for cheating.  Let me say it again.  There is no excuse for cheating.  Now you say it.  There is no excuse for cheating.

Your only responsibility in someone else’s lapse in judgement is to yourself.

Cheating is cheating.  It doesn’t matter whom it was with or how many times it happened.

Cheating gets easier every time it’s done.  It’s only hard the first time, when one feels the sting of morality and the guilt of betraying someone’s trust.

Cheaters never prosper.

A cheater only cheats himself, because he doesn’t get to be with you.

Don’t waste the pretty~dani

“He just got out of a Relationship,” But we really are dating,” It’s better than nothing,” “But he’s out of town a lot.”  Greg tells you not to keep any undeclared, undefined relationships.  Women find it hard to talk about their feelings sometimes and find it difficult to bring up the awkward question of, “so, are we dating or what.”

Guys tell you how they feel even if you refuse to listen or believe them.  ”I don’t want to be in a serious relationship” truly means “I don’t want to be in a serious relationship with you” or “I’m not sure that you’re the one.” (sorry.)

Better than nothing is not good enough for you!

If you don’t know where the relationship is going, it’s okay to pull over and ask.

Murky? Not good.

There’s a guy out there who will want to tell everyone he’s your boyfriend.  Quit goofing around and go find him.

Don’t waste the pretty~dani

“He’s afraid to get hurt again,” “He’s so into me that now he’s not,” “But it still feels so good,” “Multiple excuses.”  Greg says that if he likes you, he’s going to want to have sex with you.  Things may slow down in a long term relationship, but you have the right to a fantastic sex life.

People tell you who they are all the time.  When a man says he can’t be monogamous, you should believe him.

Companionship is wonderful, but companionship with sex is even better.  Call a spade a spade or, more fittingly, a friend a friend, and go find yourself a friend that can’t keep his hands off you.

Your lost self-esteem may take longer to find than a new boyfriend, so prioritize accordingly.

If you’re tempted to spend countless nights just cuddling with someone, but a puppy.

There’s someone out there that does want to have sex with you, hot stuff.

Don’t waste the pretty~dani

Chapter 2- He’s just not that into you if he’s not calling you

“But he’s been traveling a lot,” “But he’s got a lot on his mind,” He’s just says things he doesn’t mean,” “Maybe we’re just different,” “But he’s very important.”  Greg paints a picture of what you’ll never see when you’re with a guy who’s really into you:  You’ll never see you staring manically at your phone, willing it to ring.  You’ll never be hating yourself for calling him when you know you shouldn’t have.  What you will see is you bing treated so well that no phone antics will be necessary.  You’ll be too busy to being adored.

If he’s not calling you, it’s because you are not on his mind.

If he creates expectations for you, and then doesn’t follow through on little things, he will do the same for big things.  Be aware of this and realize that he’s okay with disappointing you.

Don’t be with someone who doesn’t do what they say they’re going to to.

If he’s choosing not to make a simple effort that would put you at ease and bring harmony to a recurring fight, then he doesn’t respect your feelings and needs.

“Busy” is another word for “asshole.” “Asshole” is another word for the guy you’re dating.

You deserve a fucking phone call!

Don’t waste the pretty~dani

Chapter 1-He’s just not that into you if he’s not asking you out

Excuses, excuses, excuses…”Maybe he doesn’t want to ruin the friendship,” “Maybe he’s intimidated by me,” Maybe he wants to take it slow, “But he gave me his number,” “Maybe he forgot to remember me,” “Maybe I don’t want to play games.”  These are the wonderful excuses many ladies make for the men in their lives.  Greg begs you to remember that “when it comes to men, deal with us as we are, not how you’d like us to be.”  Men love the chase and you have to let them chase you.  His belief is that if you have to be the aggressor, if you have to pursue, if you have to do the asking out, nine out of ten times….He’s just not that into you!  

And excuse is a polite rejection.  Men are not afraid of “ruining the friendship.”

Don’t get tricked into asking him out.  If he likes you, he’ll do the asking.

If you can find him, then he can find you.  If he wants to find you, he will.

Just because you like to lead doesn’t mean he wants to dance.  Some traditions are born of nature and last through time for a reason.

“Hey, let’s meet as so and so’s party/anybar/friend’s house” is not a date.  Even if you live in NY.

Men don’t forget how much they like you.  So put down the phone.

You are good enough to be asked out.

Soooo​o,​ Melis​sa and I came up with the best book club ever.​.​.​the Wino and Sex Book Club!​ We’​re not your ordin​ary book club.​.​.​we drink​ wine and we read good.​.​.​I mean great​ books​!​ Sexy,​ scand​alous​,​ wonde​rfull​y provo​cativ​e books​ that spark​ a perso​n’​s intri​gue.​ You don’​t even have to be in our zip code.​ : )

First​ book of our club.​.​.​”​He’​s just not that into you” by Greg Behre​ndt and Liz Tucci​llo.​ I have to say that I just start​ed readi​ng it today​.​.​.​I can’​t put it down and I can’​t stop laugh​ing.​ It’s wonde​rfull​y accur​ate!​ haha!​ 

Wheth​er from a lady or gentl​eman’​s point​ of view,​ it is a freak​in’​ great​ and easy read with very funny​ insig​ht into the oppos​ite sex. If you would​ like to join our club,​ pleas​e let me know.​ The more the merri​er.​ I’m gonna​ see if I can set somet​hing throu​gh Myspa​ce to get more peopl​e invol​ved.​ 

Pleas​e repos​t this if you know peopl​e who would​ be inter​ested​.​ : D We’​ll let you know when we will “​discu​ss”​ this book.​ If you read it.​.​.​I hope you will enjoy​ it. I am. 

Chao.​.​.​Dani ; )